I know you have loads of people's blogs to grade and things get confusing. You marked me down to a 66% on blogs for not completing all of my blogs. Let me help you out.
Week 1: New Beginnings, New Mysteries
Week 2: The Gift of Life
Week 3: Rules-a plenty
Week 4: What exactly is this whole "culture" thing?
Week 5: Gender Roles
Week 6: The Know Quo: Dating and what Comes Along With It
Week 7: Marriage: Rules and Roles
Week 8: Marital Bonds: A Lasting Marriage
Week 9: Sometimes Life is One Big Merry-go-round
Week 10: Can You Hear Me Now?
Week 11: It's my money, I do what I want with it... right?
Week 12: Yeah whatever mom. Like you Know!
Week 13:Up and down and up and... all around?
There you have it. Thirteen weeks. All for this class. Sorry if there was any confusion, but just wanted to show you I had finished ALL of my blogs.
~Mary
Friday, April 12, 2013
Sunday, April 7, 2013
Up and down and up and down and... all around?
Life. Yeah, I know. It is intense. Sometimes it is good, other times it is a little rough. Sometimes it is just right in the middle. But so what?
Well, joke's on you. I am not talking about life today. I am talking about marriage... again. But this time, the prevention of divorce. So, say you have yourself this marriage. You kind of like it. But what about the day you realize your bank account is empty and there are bills to pay? Things get a little stressful. You are down. But just last month, you had the best month in a long time? What is this up and down roller coaster?
Every marriage is going to have these ups and downs, the high and the low times. The thought of divorce might pop into your mind, but let me tell you: DON'T DO IT!!! (Well, unless your life is at risk of course). Let's face it, divorce doesn't come on suddenly. There are predictors of divorce which are foreseen sometimes years in advance. What are these predictors you might ask? I shall tell you:
1- You come from a family of divorced parents, you perceive divorce as a solution
2- Emotional instability
3- Lack of effective model
4- High level of anxiety
5- KIDS
These are some of the predictors which may warn of the slippery path which may lie ahead. But I really don't want to focus on these. The key is to be PROACTIVE!
Counteract these predictors with protections of divorce
1- Communicate
2-Learn to solve a problem (early on)
3- Avoid blaming/disregarding your spouse
4- DATE PROPERLY!!
Communication is one of the most important factors of a healthy marriage. When there is communication equally between husband and wife, it leads to discussions of feelings and protects from harm caused from not speaking with each other.
Learning to solve a problem early on can help in many future situations. If you have practiced early on in the relationship how to properly solve problems, you can prevent much heart ache in the future.
Avoiding blaming your spouse and disregarding their feelings will prevent you from future pain and will keep you two on the same page.
And finally, date properly. The way you date is the way your relationship will go. If you start off a relationship dating frequently and being together, you will form a bond which will hold you two together later on and you will have already had practice with all the above mentioned topics.
So, yes marriage isn't going to be easy. There will always be ups and downs. That is to be expected. But the key is to stay proactive and work as a team with your spouse to be ready when stressful times come.
Good luck with your marriages, and may God bless!
~Mary
Well, joke's on you. I am not talking about life today. I am talking about marriage... again. But this time, the prevention of divorce. So, say you have yourself this marriage. You kind of like it. But what about the day you realize your bank account is empty and there are bills to pay? Things get a little stressful. You are down. But just last month, you had the best month in a long time? What is this up and down roller coaster?
Every marriage is going to have these ups and downs, the high and the low times. The thought of divorce might pop into your mind, but let me tell you: DON'T DO IT!!! (Well, unless your life is at risk of course). Let's face it, divorce doesn't come on suddenly. There are predictors of divorce which are foreseen sometimes years in advance. What are these predictors you might ask? I shall tell you:
1- You come from a family of divorced parents, you perceive divorce as a solution
2- Emotional instability
3- Lack of effective model
4- High level of anxiety
5- KIDS
These are some of the predictors which may warn of the slippery path which may lie ahead. But I really don't want to focus on these. The key is to be PROACTIVE!
Counteract these predictors with protections of divorce
1- Communicate
2-Learn to solve a problem (early on)
3- Avoid blaming/disregarding your spouse
4- DATE PROPERLY!!
Communication is one of the most important factors of a healthy marriage. When there is communication equally between husband and wife, it leads to discussions of feelings and protects from harm caused from not speaking with each other.
Learning to solve a problem early on can help in many future situations. If you have practiced early on in the relationship how to properly solve problems, you can prevent much heart ache in the future.
Avoiding blaming your spouse and disregarding their feelings will prevent you from future pain and will keep you two on the same page.
And finally, date properly. The way you date is the way your relationship will go. If you start off a relationship dating frequently and being together, you will form a bond which will hold you two together later on and you will have already had practice with all the above mentioned topics.
So, yes marriage isn't going to be easy. There will always be ups and downs. That is to be expected. But the key is to stay proactive and work as a team with your spouse to be ready when stressful times come.
Good luck with your marriages, and may God bless!
~Mary
Thursday, April 4, 2013
Yeah, whatever mom. Like you know!
If you go anywhere, odds are you will see people in the role of parenting. If not the actual role of parenting at that moment, you will see the results of parenting. Just look at the next person who walks by. You can see for yourself what I mean by seeing the way they walk, talk, or even laugh. But what on earth am I getting at? Believe it or not, parents rub off on their children. There. I have said it.
No matter how much I deny it, I often find myself saying or doing things that my own mother would do. I freeze. Right there, right then. How could this be happening? I am my own person!
Everyone knows how the years of being a teen go. Mom, you don't know. I know mom. Mom, you are embarrassing me. But guess what. If the teenagers weren't whining about something, then the parents are doing their job wrong.
I think back to the years of pulling weeds and picking beans from the garden. Oh, how I LOATHED those beans! "Why are we doing this? What is the point? I don't even like green beans!" Those are some typical words which would come out of my mouth while being forced against my will to pick endless amounts of beans.
Looking back at it now, I can see the reasoning behind it. A good parent places their child in positions and provides opportunities for their child to grow. Whether that be cognitively, physically, growth in common sense, or work ethics. That little Mary in the garden was miserable, but do you know what? Today I am grateful I was forced (against my will might I add) to pick those stupid beans. It taught me the value of work. Something that is being dwindled as time goes on.
One thing I loved about my dad is that he would be out there in the garden with us picking and pulling plants. It takes a good example to motivate and teach children to grow. So, even though I absolutely hated my parents at times (or so I thought), they taught me things that I could not learn in any other way.
So yes, as a teen I knew it all and my parents didn't. But today... I am very appreciative of their patience toward me.
~Mary
No matter how much I deny it, I often find myself saying or doing things that my own mother would do. I freeze. Right there, right then. How could this be happening? I am my own person!
Everyone knows how the years of being a teen go. Mom, you don't know. I know mom. Mom, you are embarrassing me. But guess what. If the teenagers weren't whining about something, then the parents are doing their job wrong.
I think back to the years of pulling weeds and picking beans from the garden. Oh, how I LOATHED those beans! "Why are we doing this? What is the point? I don't even like green beans!" Those are some typical words which would come out of my mouth while being forced against my will to pick endless amounts of beans.
Looking back at it now, I can see the reasoning behind it. A good parent places their child in positions and provides opportunities for their child to grow. Whether that be cognitively, physically, growth in common sense, or work ethics. That little Mary in the garden was miserable, but do you know what? Today I am grateful I was forced (against my will might I add) to pick those stupid beans. It taught me the value of work. Something that is being dwindled as time goes on.
One thing I loved about my dad is that he would be out there in the garden with us picking and pulling plants. It takes a good example to motivate and teach children to grow. So, even though I absolutely hated my parents at times (or so I thought), they taught me things that I could not learn in any other way.
So yes, as a teen I knew it all and my parents didn't. But today... I am very appreciative of their patience toward me.
~Mary
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