Can you hear me now?

When you were a kid, do you remember those little walkie talkies that all of the the kids got?  Maybe it was you who got one, maybe not.  Either way, for those who did get one soon found out a little lesson on being on the same frequency.  If one is on a different frequency than the other, all you get is muffled white noise and there is no communication between the two people.

Just like these walkie talkies, it is necessary in a relationship to be on the same frequency or wave length.  Communication is a tricky subject.  It is tricky because there are various ways of communicating other than through just words.  Body language, words, and tone all play a part of communication.  In a message, 14% conveyed is through words, 35% is through the tone in which you say something, and 51% is from nonverbal cues you give through body language.

Since there are multiple parts to communicating, there are times where a person may have interpreted something wrong.  To keep from a lot of drama or unnecessary argument, you can just simply ask a person if you understood them correctly.  If you happen to of misunderstood the person, it gives them an opportunity to explain their views and can eliminate anymore issues on a subject.

One last thing I picked up on in class is that in a relationship,it is helpful to have cues with one another.  Some may call it a code.  When one person is needing or feeling a certain way, they can use a code in which they both understand to change a situation.  Say you have been at your in-laws house for one minute too long.  If the two of you are on the same frequency and wavelength and are aware of codes, you can motion to go home.  Try it sometime and see what I mean.

So in the end, communication plays a large role in any relationship.  It is the key to a good or failing relationship.  The way to build on your skills is to practice.  Find a way to get on the same wave length as your partner or person of whom you are communicating with.  Once you do this,you can almost guarantee a smoother relationship.