In a family, or any type of relationship for that matter, you can expect some stress to come up. This stress can be caused by change from routine. In some cases, this stress comes from an emergency. When this happens, there is a sense of centrifugal force. The crisis forces the individuals to start to pull apart. After all, it is the natural tendency.
Do you remember back in the day when you were a little guy on the playground? There was that one playground equipment you just had to ride. The merry-go-round. If you were a dare devil, you would head to the edges and let your body be pulled. In some cases, you probably met the ground. What about those times you decided you didn't want all of that force. What did you do? Every kid knows you have to pull yourself into the middle.
As with the merry-go-round scenario, the more you pull toward the middle, the safer you are and the less stress is placed upon you. Whenever you are placed in that situation which is testing your strength, whether it be in your family, with room mates, or with your spouse, the key is to place the problem on the outside and pull in towards each other to address the problem. When you are together,you are in the same place and able to cope better with situations placed in front of you. Sometimes you need to restructure the roles you play in order to meet new needs. Coping is not only getting through it, rather it is getting better.
So, the next time you start to feel your world SPIN and get a little out of control, remember to go back to the basics and pull together, meeting in the middle. Hopefully you have better results than this guy.
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